All of the things you said are virtues (though I strenuously disagree about the entertainment options - me and my partner are close to bored to tears here. Thankfully we know amazing people to hang out with.)nativeomahan wrote: Thu Jun 22, 2023 1:38 pmThis is well stated. I wouldn’t come down quite as hard on Nebraska and say no young adult should decide to put down roots here. In many ways it has a combination of essential and even desirable attributes that would help a young person who chose to live here flourish: a relatively low cost of living; a relatively low crime rate; a low unemployment rate (with some professions literally begging for workers); generally good schools (if one chooses to have kids, or just cares about the neighbor kids not being drags on society); and at least in Omaha, a good assortment of arts and entertainment options. It’s also quite easy to hop on a plane and be to any coastal metropolis in 3 hours or less.legato9 wrote: Tue Jun 20, 2023 7:57 pm
I’m lucky that I’ve lived around the country and travel abroad a lot. (Honestly, rural Nebraska feels more foreign to me than pretty much any country I’ve been to - and not in a good way.)
I would never, ever, in a billion years suggest that a brand new grad stay here. A case could be made for returning at some point down the road. But there’s just too much that the world has to offer that you can’t soak up here when you’re young. Really young people should see what Boston or Atlanta or LA (though I hate LA) or Miami or Austin have to offer. Or even better, Milan or Madrid.
This isn’t a young person’s state. It just isn’t. That’s okay. No place can be everything to everyone.
I’ve even realized recently - painfully - that I love Omaha…but I’m not in love with Omaha. And I won’t ever be. So my partner and I know that we’ll enjoy our days here…but they’re numbered. (It almost makes me misty-eyed to write that.)
In short, it’s the “safe” choice to make.
What is missing are the opportunities to pursue many many specialized career fields, and the opportunity to live and work next to people from dozens of other nationalities and lifestyles. Whereas in Omaha (and to a lesser extent in rural parts of the state) you can be a big fish in a smallish pond, in a large city one can be a small fish in a great big sea. Some people just prefer to stay in their comfort zone. Omaha (and maybe the rest of the state) fits within their preferred lifestyle.
In looking at long term demographic patterns, the planet has more than doubled its total population in just a few decades, while huge chunks of the Midwestern US have not only failed to keep up with global demographic trends, but have basically stagnated in terms of growth (most Nebraska counties have had basically zero or negative population growth in the past 9 or 10 decades!). This stunning fact strongly suggests that large numbers of former residents of the Midwest have voted with their feet, and left for perceived greener pastures.
But a young person should never make the “safe” choice. “Safe” is for 60 year olds. Or maybe 50.
Young people should see what the world offers. They should see lots of cultures. Discover all sorts of new things.
A buddy of mine and his girlfriend moved to London a couple years ago. They’re 28/29. To pursue music and acting.
They live in a little apartment with another couple.
I just visited them, and I was so jealous. I admire them so much. They have this unbelievably rich and beautiful life. Their standard of living on paper is low. But the spirit on their faces, and their energy and the spirit and energy around them is intoxicating.
That’s life for a young person. (Or an old person who hasn’t lost their drive.)
Omaha is safe. But it’s so GD bland. There just isn’t the energy and ambition and inspiration of so many bigger places. Sure, it has pockets here and there.
I was just in Milan, and the feeling there was electric. It’s like everyone from every walk of life was trying to put their stamp on the city. Punks, fashionistas, financiers, artists, all in this eclectic blend that was just dizzying. (To say nothing of the city’s beauty.)
Omaha is nice. It really is. It has the basics nicely covered. It’ll get even better. I’m sure of that. But a young person needs much, much more for their soul. They can always come back later. But I think it would be tragic for them to live their whole life here.

